By Marnie Goldenberg Jun 24, I like the message. These messages intend to tear down limitations set by the fashion industry, celebrity culture and intense body consciousness.
And if a grown woman decides to flaunt her body—booty included—then I say: But what about our young daughters and their young booties? The first place to start: Our bodies are part of our power and delighting in them, feeding them, is life affirming. Teaching our kids to not just tolerate their bodies, but to like them, is good. Today though, leggings paired with crop top is the norm.
Where you set limits for yourself or your children is very much up to you.
Be clear on your limit and be prepared with a reasonable answer when your child inevitably asks: What qualifies as booty shorts? I had to look it up.
Urban Dictionary seemed the perfect place to get hip to the booty. As a sex educator, I am a huge fan of giving young people information and helping them formulate their values and discover their identities when it comes to sex and sexuality.
Living in the hyper-sexualized culture that we do means our kids are exposed to sexy language, images and ideals starting at a very young age. At times, it makes me want to uproot my family for a less sex-focused life in a dark cave. What am I going to do with the explicit and implied sexual messages that my kids receive? And, how am I going to counter those messages when they rub up against pun intended ideas of bodily autonomy and choice?
For me, a tween in booty shorts does not neatly correlate to an empowered and sexually liberated woman. Fashion, celebrity and pop culture are everywhere and kids see all of it. You can ask things like: Does how we dress affect what people think about us?